While most Asian women have pure motives, some don’t and will take advantage of your generosity.Many websites have their share of financial scammers, and it is next to impossible to screen them out entirely. Family is so important in the Asian culture that when you date an Asian woman, consider that you may also have to court every single member of her family.Many western societies are far more comfortable with gender equality and with educational and professional opportunities being available for women in some cases, Chinese girls focus on their career for first 7-8 years post- graduation, possibly to the detriment of her social and love life; now she is 27 or more and carries the stigma of being a “leftover woman”; too old for local men—yet a foreign man has no such qualms about age and often cherishes a well educated, well travelled, feminine woman So, now we know some of the key attractions of Chinese girls to foreign men, what about some of the key points of etiquette and manners?Chinese culture and society are multi- layered and it’s relatively easy to give offence to a Chinese girl without intending to do so.Over the last 10-15 years in Asia, the phenomenon of Chinese girls dating foreign or “western” men has grown exponentially.These days, you can’t help but notice mixed race couples almost everywhere when you travel around any Asian city or even to smaller towns.Clearly, misunderstandings and some miscommunications are going to arise in the early days but an application of good common sense and pragmatism usually can help prevent or solve any major issue which may arise.Here are some key points for foreign men to bear in mind when dating Chinese girls: if you are not serious about the relationship with your Chinese girlfriend, don’t visit her parents and family; however, do enquire about their general wellbeing, health and any newsworthy matters she may have mentioned don’t dominate or be the centre of attention at social gatherings—you need to earn respect from the friend of your Chinese girl and her family.
Here’s Seoulistic’s video on When and How to Bow in Korea: Titles and Names: When calling other people, Korean etiquette often dictates the use of titles instead of names. Park,” the title 아버지 (abeoji – “father”) is more appropriate.
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